Have you ever rolled over in the morning and not known the man
lying next to you? I'm not referring to that time back in
college - I'm talking about the present. After years of
marriage, you may start to feel like your husband is a stranger.
Or is it that you feel he's getting stranger? Either way, here
are 5 simple ways to stay connected to your husband.
1. Cook a meal together. Whether it's breakfast or dinner it
doesn't matter, as long as you're spending time together. How
about getting up early Sunday morning and making a big
old-fashioned Sunday breakfast for you and the kids? Or sending
the kids to a sitter and preparing a nice romantic dinner
together?
You'll save money fixing the meal at home rather than dining
out. Plus, you won't have to get "all dolled up" (unless you
want to). Most importantly, you'll be using teamwork, which is
the number one priority for any marriage.
2. Take on a project and get dirty! Tackle a big and messy job
on your list - cleaning out the garage, pulling up shrubs in the
yard, organizing the attic. Make an afternoon of it and do it
together! You'll both feel a great sense of accomplishment that
the job is finally done and it'll feel great to know that you
got it done by operating as a unit.
Now that you've worked up a sweat, why not draw a bath for two?
3. Spend a lazy afternoon going through old photos and
reminiscing. Talk about the activities you used to do when you
first started dating and make a plan to start doing them again.
You might not be able to do them all, but make the effort to do
as many of them as you can, whether it is taking long walks,
going to concerts, or making out at the movies.
4. Play hooky! Plan a day where you can each stay home from work
and spend the whole day home - alone - together - doing
absolutely nothing! Lay in bed all day, cuddle, and watch
movies. Make sure to turn the ringer off on the phone.
5. Make an effort on a daily basis to stay connected to your
husband. Listen, ask questions - be his partner in all aspects
of your life. Something as simple as making it a point to say,
"How was your day, Honey?" every day when he gets home and
listening to his response can make all the difference.
The most important thing to remember is that you are not in your
marriage by yourself. Share your concerns with your husband if
you're not feeling quite as close as you once did. Let him know
how you feel, how it makes you feel and that you want to work on
it.
Chances are your husband will be clueless, but once he realizes
you're genuinely concerned, he'll jump right in and make more of
an effort. Good luck!
About the author:
Nicole Dean invites you to
http://www.RomanceYourHusband.com, a
website dedicated to helping married couples stay friends and to
help them remember why they married each other in the first
place. Our disclaimer is: If he's a jerk, this won't work. But,
if he's sweet, rub his feet.
