Sex life? What sex life? You're a parent and life is so busy
that you barely have time to think about your own needs, let
alone do anything about meeting them. It can seem like your own
needs don't matter, it's the children that have top priority and
you have to do whatever it takes to look after them. Don't be
fooled, your needs are important and neglecting them isn't good
for anyone, not you, not your partner and definitely not your
children. Sure you can't do all the things you did before
children, life has changed and pleasure comes in different ways.
But you are still an adult with adult needs and for you to feel
fulfilled they need to be met.
So how do you find time and energy for sex when there are so
many other things demanding your attention? It takes a bit more
planning and effort than in the past but you need to tell
yourself that it can happen and it is definitely worth it.
What if you don't want anyone touching you after having children
crawling all over you all day? Some people have a quotient for
the amount of physical contact they need and can comfortably
accommodate in a day. But if you think about it children touch
you differently to how your partner touches you and for the most
part, it's all take.
So how do you have more sex? Okay, how do you have any sex?
1. Make it a priority and it will happen. Feeding the children
quickly becomes a priority when you have nagging children at
your feet. Make your desires like that and don't let up until
you have got what you need.
2. Find a time that works. It may be early in the morning before
the children wake up, it may be immediately after they've gone
to bed ignoring the dishes and the washing and cleaning up, it
may be during the day while the kids are watching a video. You
have to make time for each other.
3. Do some things that make you think about sex. It can be hard
to switch your brain from babyland to sex so you may need a
little help. Watch a sexy movie, read erotic fiction together,
write your partner a sexy note, think back to a time when you
had great sex (c'mon you can do that, it can't be that long,
surely, you have children afterall!), relive how good it felt.
4. Take a shower together. There is something about getting
naked and wet together that can be very erotic.
5. Expect interruptions and don't be put off. OK you start
kissing and you hear a baby cry. You try to ignore it but you
can't. So you go off and tend to them and then think the moment
is gone. But it isn't. And if it is then get it back by viewing
the interruption as a diversion which has increased your
appetite for sex not soured it.
6. Don't wait until you get into bed to initiate sex. When
you've been together awhile it's easy to fall into habits, like
falling into a deep sleep as soon as your head touches the
pillow, and sometimes it's those habits that you need to break
in order to kickstart your sex life. Sex can happen anywhere so
make use of the spaces you have.
7. And the most important thing you need to do - don't give up!
You can find a way to make it happen. Know that your needs are
important and you will function better when they've been met.
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